The shadow side is anything that you want to hide–from others, or God, or yourself. It’s the things that you don’t want to admit or deal with because you fear rejection or sense that the pain will be too great to bear if you bring it to the light.
Actually the opposite is true. Once you bring an issue to the light and heal from the consequences, the burden and emotional pain of trying to keep the secret disappears. That does not mean you must announce your shortcomings to the world–just to yourself, a non-judgmental coach, or your higher guidance/angels who can help you move past it.
We assign values (good/bad, right/wrong, acceptable/unacceptable) to behaviors based on judgment. Without placing a value/judgment on a behavior, it is nothing more than an event. It has no power.
Think of one thing that you feel ashamed or guilty of. What if you removed all the judgment surrounding it? How would it feel to separate yourself from the emotion you have attached to the behavior? This is the beginning of self-love and forgiveness. This is shadow work. This allows you to make better choices because it ends the addictive cycle of self-abasement that keeps an emotional pattern stuck in the cellular memory of the pain body.
In the following radio interview with David Clark, Yvonne Perry shares tips for loving yourself and moving past “failures” to find your joy and authentic self-expression.
As a spiritual coach, Yvonne Perry is able to assist you with shadow work and offering love to yourself. Please find out more about how she can help you move past your hurts and take the next step on your healing journey.